This post is a tribute to an extraordinary man.
21 June 2008 – This is a date we would like to remember. This is the day a wonderful, kind, caring and unassuming gentleman named Ivor W.Smith, passed away and went home to be with the Lord.
He was 86 years of age.
Ivor devoted his life to serving other people. He was a digger serving Australia in PNG during the war. Subsequently, he got shot in the leg by a machine gun but was one of the lucky ones to have lived and tell the tale.
Ivor never married and did not have any children.
About six months before, Ivor had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. However, I am unclear as to if that was the cause of his passing. At the time, the surgeons did not try to operate because he was presumed too weak to have been able to survive the trauma of the surgery.
Since having been diagnosed, Ivor’s health has just taken a downward spiral. Prior to the diagnosis, he was in the pink of health, lived by himself and was an active gentleman. I often contemplated if the speed of deterioration of a person’s physical being was due more to their mental or physical state, after the knowledge that they have contracted a terminal condition.
Within six months, Ivor was reduced to just skin and bones; a shadow of his former self. He had a good sense of humour which both P and I enjoyed. It made our visits easier. Even on some days when he was not his best, he had always managed a smile for us.
He often seemed to be in high spirits when we visited him in palliative care; we tried to visit every weekend. On some visits, I find myself wondering when would be the right time for a person to accept his mortality.
When he was feeling better, we used to take him for a walk in a wheelchair so that he could at least feel the sun’s rays or the gentle breeze on his skin. But one day, he had a fall when he was by himself and had to be admitted to the hospital. He hasn’t been the same since he got back, and has never become strong enough to get out of bed or for us to be able to take him out on a wheelchair again.
Ivor hung on bravely, and made it through his birthday on the 15 June.
It was always very heart-wrenching to visit him as he only seemed to be getting worse. A week ago, he was in a really bad way. When we saw him, we knew then that he was hanging by a thread and anticipated that he might pass away anytime soon. We spoke to the carers there who confirmed our thoughts. We began visiting him every other day, with the last visit on Friday, 20th June.
P commented after the visit on that day that Ivor didn’t recognise him anymore- he had always recognised P whenever we visited and would call out P’s name and give us a huge smile. P also said that Ivor no longer looked like himself and his eyes seemed to have sunken in.
On Saturday morning, 21 June 2008, Ivor W.Smith gave up his wretched body and went home to be with the Lord. We pray that his spirit may rest in peace in the eternal kingdom of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
Please, join us in praying for him as we mourn our loss. We will miss you, mate.
Ivor W.Smith – 15 May 1922 to 21 June 2008.
“You’ll remember me, won’t you?” – Ivor W.Smith, during one of our visits.